Sunday, November 13, 2005
This is for Pedro J. Ramos and Alexander Hamilton. You guys will be greatly missed and always loved...... I just lost a friend who I have known about five years. It hurt, because it was sudden. But, now I think about the time we could have spent that we didn't spend, but should have spent. What is worse is that about 15 months ago I lost another friend in the identical manner. Guys, you will always be remembered!!!! My best friend had an asthma attack last may, went into a coma and died, she was 23. I'm going to see her parents tomorrow for the first time since the funeral and I'm nervous as hell. I am so scared I will cry and scream in front of them but their pain is much worse than mine. I miss her so badly and no one seems to understand that I cant just wake up one day and be happy again it helps to know others feel the same Just found your site. not in a great place at the moment. Lost the pregnancy of my daughter Rose 5 months ago and now lost a old friend 3 weeks ago having watched him suffer for some time. my pain seems over whelming at times. Thank you for your site. Maybe i am not going crazy at all. Well I'm not sure if this falls under a loss but to me and my children... we lost our family .... and to what alcohol.... My wife for over 6 years has place her need for the drink over me and the children.... Over the last year she has had an affair with the local town drunk.... She went as far as to make totally false accusations causing the Family Court to is an Order of Protection which has since been dismissed.... The children and I have lost our home, our family dog... A month after I was forced out of my home because of the Order of Protection My wife abandoned the home and moved her and the children into her boyfriends home..... My 14 year old has repeatedly told the Law Guardian that he wants to live with me, yet he has been ignored... I am and always was a devoted father and husband....I have all kinds of fact finding documents to prove my claim... yet it is ignored.... My wife has on many occasions endanger the children by drinking and driving.... My 14 year old has told the Law Guardian that he has witness his mom drinking on many occasions yet that has been ignored... There is just so much to this story .... I have tried to find help.... The Courts are so bios... I was and still am the responsible parent.... My wife drinks 4 to 5 days a week and shows up in Court sober... I question the knowledge of the Court system when it concerns alcoholism.... My family has lost so much in just a year..... My children have been ripped apart from a once loving family unit... why because of alcohol.... why because my wife is in denial.... why because she has now surrounded herself and the children around a bunch of alcoholics..... I have gone to Court 22 in less than a year trying to state my case... I have called my state representatives... I have called Human Rights.... CPS..... I have even written to Dr. Phil.... and I being told that there is nothing I could do but let the Court take care of it. I now know the power of the alcohol.... I have seen first hand its destruction... me and the children are casualties.... The Court has not lived in our world... The Judge has not lost his home... his children are not placed in danger or neglected by the alcoholic.... I can not blame my wife she has a disease.... she just reacts to he problem... I find the system guilty... They have ignored the facts and only look at my wife as a mother... Problem was and still is she stop being a mother because she became an alcoholic.... She start putting the drinking before the family, the children and all the Court has done is allow that to continue. If anyone knows where I can turn for legal help, anything any avenue... I can not give up on my children and truthfully I do not want to give up on my wife. Jgarofalj@hotmail.com My mother has advanced pancreatic cancer. The doctors are saying it doesn't look good, and that she may not last the year. I hope they are wrong, I am very sad. She is very angry and refusing to get out of bed. They said her only chance is to do chemotherapy, but they want her to get stronger in rehab, but she refuses to get out of bed. I am trying to prepare myself for her death. By praying and going to therapy, and surrounding myself with a loving support network. These are trully the best ways to deal with your grief. I found this website a year ago looking for pictures of dachshunds, i had lost my beloved Gretchen. my Boston Terrier, Sadie, was attacking her and I had to get rid of her. Almost a year later my Sadie passed and I remembered your wonderful site. I want to thank you for all you have done to help heal my broken heart and help me love again. Amanda Knotts all of my family died on an air plane
what a lovely website and poem
My youngest sister died on October lst. I was her caregiver for 6 years and I have the most empty feeling in my heart. I held her hand when she came home from the hospital as a newborn, and I was holding it still as she began her journey free from pain. Thank you for a place to say this. Paula
THANK YOU! This is a great resource and needless ta say, greatly needed!! Blessings, Jerry (from OH)
Thank you for this wonderful site. I lost my grandpa 6 years ago and I still cannot get over it.
My sister died 7/31/04 in a car accident. She was only 26 and left behind two beautiful children 1 and 4, a wonderful husband, another sister who went ahead with her wedding two weeks later (even though her matron of honor was no longer) our brother and our mom. She was my best friend... I talked to her sometimes several times a week and now don't have that. We had lost our dad three years ago. My Heart Will Go On was played at her funeral because Titanic was her favorite movie of all time. Our family is still reeling from the shock. I know we'll see her again, but our pain is so great. She was such a bright light in our lives.
Our 13-year old Hootie, scottie terrier was diagnosed with liver disease (cirrhosis) in February 2004. This Sunday, he seemed fine, took his medicine with a bright and eager look that we hadn't seen in quite some time from him. I was afraid that this behavior was the calm before the storm and I was right. He went outside through his doggie door around 11:00 PM and apparently and peacefully laid down on the warm concrete by the pool, under the stars and peacefully went to sleep, taking his last breath. My husband found him when he awoke from his chair in front of the television. He called for him to come in, but he didn't move. The house is lonely, he's not by my chair, he isn't looking up at me from his bed when I come downstairs each morning. We are grieving his loss and feel that he did this his way, with dignity. Hootie didn't want me to see him die and I am glad that I did not have to take him in for euthanasia. I have been so focused caring for his skin lesions, bathing him, cleaning his eye drainage, applying ointment to the sore and cracking skin on his nose, sore feet, etc. How he loved us and how we loved him too. Thank-you God for giving us our Hootie and allowing us to be here and share his dignified passing. There will never be another Hootie, how special his memories. Please lift this heaviness from my heart and let me feel the joy that Hootie no longer needs to suffer.
Dana Berube I want to thank you for this forum. Sharing in loss validates it as well as knowing that we are not alone.
Marty, I visited this website the first thing this morning. I am touched beyond words. What a beautiful job you have done. I will continue to visit it often and refer others to it. Barbara Williams
My 18 year old son died without any warning on the 13/2/04. I do not have the words to describe the loss and the pain.There is no sleep,no peace. I know James would not want his death to destroy our lives and if he could see the way we are it would break his heart.At the moment we "live" for Jim but oneday we will start to live for ourselves and carry him with us in our hearts.
I accidentally wandered into this web page, it sure serve as a source of venue for me to grief and to grow and learn more after the demised of my beloved hubby to cancer! Got lots of inspirational strength! Opening up one's heart is not an easy task, guess we've to take the first step! I'm taking mine now!
GOOD AND EDUCATIONAL, AWESOME AND INFORMATIVE WEBSITE, WAOOO, FANTASTIC. MGBADA@IMO.COM
Believe me, no matter what anyone says you never get over the pain of someone whom you have loved unconditionally. I live a normal life after losing my precious father 12 years ago but if I just allow myself to think that tiny bit more about losing him the pain is as keen as the day I held him as he passed. You can put it to one side but given a moment to yourself and it all kicks in as severe as the moment it happened. And I don't mind that at all because how on earth can you ever lose a pain that is the deepest pain you can ever suffer than to lose someone more precious than yourself. Don't ever forget those you lose - live on in them and never be afraid to hurt when you remember their passing because everyone has someone or more than someone who they find life near on impossible to live without and there's no shame in that. We have all loved and to hurt forever is an extension of that love. Don't get over it if you don't want to - I never ever will. Love you more each minute, Dad xxxx
It's been six months since I lost my mom..still empty inside..miss her terribly. Still have the urge to call her at 3 p.m. every afternoon. She was a wonderful mom and we were the best of friends. I tried to do everything possible for her...listened to waht the doctors thought would be better for her and you believe everything they say to you because you want to ease your loved ones suffering..I wonder When they put my mom on a respirator we believed it would only be for a short time.....I never got to hear my mom say I love you again...I went to see her almost every day...caressed her face, held her hand, told her I loved her..said the rosary for her, and yet it was not enough..not for my mom...if only I could touch her face, her hands, tell her I love her..hold her in my arms and tell her I need her by my side..if only
hi my dad pass away 2yrs ago and i dont now how to get over it
Good site!!
My families dog of 10 years as just died. We are devestated. Your website as give us some light at the end of the tunnel, Thankyou Rest in Peace Lady Jane. The Heard family
my 8 wk old pekingese puppy, has suddenly got this blue film over his right eye, I'm seeking any information before going to the vet. please help Thanks Mickey
Thank you so much for this website. It was kind of an unexplainable feeling when I first somehow got to your site. See, I lost mu mom 6 years ago and the song "My heart will go on" was the song played at my dear mothers funeral. I am having a very hard time dealing with her death and to this day it effects every part of my life. My husband never met her, nor has he ever lost a parent so he gives me no support. There are times when I just wish I could leave and be with her but I knowm its not possible until God calls me home If anyone out there can help me deal with this deep pain and loss, please email me at Uniqie100@aol.com My Name is Rose and I am a 41 year old female. May God be with all of you. Again, thnak you for this site,you will never know how much it means it means to me.
My dear friend, I find your site very nice, continue the good work. from http://www.shesinrecovery.com
I had my 15 year old cat, my friend, my Rose euthanized yesterday August 2, 2004. Did I do the right thing? I hope so. I think so. The pain I feel inside, tinged with guilt, is deep and hard. I could go on for hours telling you how special she was. But we know there are no ordinary cats. I will miss her forever.
My dear little friend, a mouse named Sassy, just passed away on the blue moon. She felt suffering on that day because she wasn't moving around too much. She was already two years old, which is old for a mouse; she was being treated with antibiotics for respiratory infection. I went out for a few hours, came back and she was gone. I loved her very much! I know she is happy now and with her mouse friends and angels. ~Ellen
I just lost my 23 year old Siamese cat. Pepper was my best friend and always at my side. She was with me through a lot of changes in my life. She left 06.05.04. I stayed up with her that night before and was holding her when she left. I can't believe she's not going to come running around a corner at any second. She was rescued by my dad when she was about 5 weeks old and we've been together ever since. Thank you for being here to help work through all the emotions that come with this pain.
I work for an animal hospital where our clients are like a family to us, especially their pets. Its not any easier or less painful to put down someone elses companion and friend. I keep a place in my heart for every soul I set free and shed a tear for all that are left behind.
Thank you so much for another one of life's "rest stops" that we might partake in the simple and uncomplicated. A respite for making sense (if that is possible) out of our losses and allowing for the hope of healing and restoration. That we also may find that it is possible to embrace suffering and find there is a sweet mystery there...maybe to wake and find ourselves able to care and love more deeply because of the experience. Mary
hi i only wish id have found this web site earlier when my mum died my dad died first then my mum it was just over a year ago and sometimes i find myself in tears im a lot better now though and i know that they are safe in my angels arms . I know i will see them again but i still miss them both so much they were special because i was their foster daughter they were extra special
I'm so glad that I have found this site. I lost my baby sister/best friend 3/7/04. I feel that my life is so empty and my selfworth is gone. I just want to die so that I can go to heaven to be with her. I know that I cant I have to stay hear so that I can watch over her 9 yr old daughter and my 19 yr old daughter as well. But the pain that I feel every min. of the day is not going away. The nights that I do sleep seem to get longer and longer. I don't seem to be able to function any more with her. I was Rita's caretaker for so long it was a feeling of being worthwhile. I pray and cry for her to come back home all day long. I just want to see and hear her again in my life. Why was she taken awy from me? I'll never know. I'm in the process for losing my job and everything that I have because I can't focus on anything excpet finding away to getting her back or being with her.
My name is Charles and my wife died on April 2nd of this year and I need help dealing with her death.She was my life,my soulmate, and best friend.A comment was made to me from a friend:Life does not last foreever but love last for enturnity.I know that when the time comes I will see my beloved one again.
Your first page, the music, your words and the picture really touched me. It's is a beautiful tribute to your parents and if they can see you I'm sure they're touched too. I lost my grandmother two years ago and I have tried not to grieve but be happy because I know she is in a better place but your home page brought tears streaming down my face. Thank-you, I needed that. God bless.
Thanks for the useful site. Keep up the good work. God bless you and keep you. -John-
I lost an important friend almost a year ago coming this September shortly after he was diagnosed with kidney failure. Since he was a part of me and like family I still grieve for him. I am afraid of losing more people as I love and attach so deeply. My education as a gerontologist seems to put me even closer to the ever present nature of loss. Jennifer
I love your website, i think it is a great thing to have for people to look at. After reading Rainbow Bridge it made me feel a little better about my kittin who past away very quikly after an accident. The poem also helped my aunt who had to put her boxer down due to cancer. thanks for such a great site. Caylie L
the picture when you're on the home page is beautiful
I wrote in this web site 9 days ago about putting my Bay-Bay to sleep it broke my heart he was a pug reading all the stories about everyone makes it a little easier it's 10 days now I still miss him so much and cry every night what helps me get by is the little things I do for him still I took a coffee mug and put his picture on it with his name I bought a big picture frame and put all his pictures in it so I can see him still everyday it really does help for a while I bought a stone from the cemetery put it in my yard that way he will alway be there with me everyone said he was just a dog but he wasn't to me it hurts so bad still
Thanks for a great site. I can only hope the void in my heart begins to fill with happy memories soon. David S.
I love your webpage. I have a business and would like to eventually list your site. WWW.PAWSWITHWINGS.COM. Please let me hear what you think about this. Thank you and God bless....Donna
I had to face the impossible to make decision that the love of my life, my soul mate and best friend Pumpkin had to be euthanized to end her pain and suffering. I held her past her final breath and can find no end to my pain- Intellectualy I have counseled people about the loss of a pet and the need to grieve...now that I am in this situation I find it unbearable. She was abused and we established case law with her case, she was my maid of honor at my wedding and now her work is done and she is out of pain but I am in agony- when does it get better??!!
Your website was listed in Raymond Moody Jr.'s book Life After Loss. My only child passed away on May 11th, 2004 at the age of 19. He had only been home from college for 6 days. I have been a single parent since he was 8 months old. I am totally lost...not just as to how to go on, but why should I go on. I keep telling myself there has to be a purpose for this tragedy and for my future. Thanks for the opportunity to express my grief. I will explore your site for comfort and hopefully some answers. Colleen
I have came upon your web site screaching about grief we had to put my Bay Bay to sleep he is a Pug he was 11 years old he couldn't walk anymore he had bad hips and back I hurt so bad never thought I would feel this bad it's been 2 days and I can't stop crying I miss him so much it's hard to walk through the door knowing he won't be there at the door waitting for me to come home I'll always remember the joy and walks we had traczenski@zoominternet.net
grief over my mother dead still after 23 years old. drew
I lost my niece last Sunday she was just five years old she had suffered all her life and i took care of her most of the time. when she died she died in my arms how do i get through with my life
I stumbled upon your website and found it so so comforting. God Bless you for this tremendous effort you've put into action.Bruce
Wonderful and inspirational.
6/13/04 Yesterday was one of the most difficult days in my life. I had to make a decision to keep my beloved dog Peppy for a while longer or end her suffering. When the decision can I could not bear to go to the vet with her but sent my husband instead. It just hurt too much to say good bye. I've beening crying since yesterday-however I have found some comfort reading oterhs stories about theri loved ones. I look forward tot he day I will see Peppy at the "pearly gates" waiting to show me the way. I miss her greatly and only regret I could not get the courage to be the last one she saw before she died.
I lost my rabbit yesterday. I feel so alone and empty. I had her (Cutie) for ten years and now it's so unreal not to have her here. I feel so much better talking about it. Thank you. -Margaret
We had to put our family dog Roxy to sleep today. She was a German Shepherd and was 12 years old. I am feeling very sad and empty. I didn't want to have to make this decision but now she is no longer in pain anymore. My mom and I will miss her terribly. Thank you for this site, it gave me the courage to be there with her in the end. Genevieve.
I lost my Brother Jimmy on December 12th 2003 and find it harder now to deal with as i miss him so much. I think of him everyday and wish he was here with me still. thank god for my wife and sons, they give me strength to carry on.......death is so hard to deal with but somehow we carry on and become happy again.i love you all if you want to talk e-mail me at donblight@hotmail.com
I had to put my dog George to sleep 10 days ago because of uncontrollable seizures. He was 8. My best friend is gone and not even my husband or children can fill the emptiness I feel. I feel more pain now about George than I did when I lost my dad suddenly. My house is so quiet now and no tail-wagging friend to greet me when I get home from work. I am devastated and cry all the time.I cannot seem to feel any peace about letting him go peacefully. Why?
My cat Lucy died couple hours ago. She died suddenly, nobody expected that. She was a beatiful black girl, she was six years old. From the begining she had a hard start, she was born without eyelids, and droped of by a shelter as a 4 weeks old kitten. She spend there 9 months,nobody wanted her because of her eyes. I adopted her, and I have to say I couldn't have made a better choice. She was my girl and I'll never forget her. She will be missed.
My heart is broken.My 12 yr. old beagle and best buddy next to my wife had recently become very sick.Wehad been giving him insulin shots twice a day.After 3 days of not eating we took him to a emergency vet at midnight 5-30-04.The vet came out with the bad news.I did not want him to suffer anylonger.We spent our last hour with him and let him sniff around outside the clinic and took some last pictures.Finally I had to hand my best friend to a complete stranger and say goodbye for the very last time.We had him since he was a little puppy.I have often thought about the day this would happen and been scared.I did not realize how much it would hurt.I just love that little guy SO MUCH and miss him terribly.He was wagging his tail alittle when we spent our last hour with him.But the look in my buddy's eyes told me he felt so bad.There was nothing else we could do for him.I would have spent my last penny to make him better.I hope he forgives me from heaven and understands I did not want him in pain anymore.And wanted what was best for him.(oh man this hurts so much.)Thankyou for this web site capebob19@earthlink.net Life must go on.
Your site was recommended by some dear friends. My baby Chihuahua passed away last nite on his first birthday. He was ran over in my driveway by a truck. I'm grieving his loss, it is so heart wrenching without him. Susan V.
I am coming up on a year on the 27th of May of my Dad's death from Lymphoma.He suffered with this for 5 1/2 years. He was my BEST FRIEND. We talked about everything. Nothing was too personal. He gave to everyone until the day of his death. This was 3 days after my mother-in-law died in a coma because of 2 strokes. I feel as if its only been yesterday. The greif is overwhelming. Sometimes debilitating. Everything that I have managed to do (go to school)raise my kids 13(autistic), and 16 (ADHD) I do as a commitment to my dad. More later.Right now I try to pretend that he's still alive. Victoria in Tempe
my mom died like one month ago i really miss her she was my best friend i could talk to her about anything but one day ill be with her
My Mother and I just lost our 9 year old Lhasa Apso, Molly. Since I am an only child and never married, Molly was my child and my Mother's grandchild. We had an expression "If Molly couldn't go we didn't go". I didn't know how we could go on, but after reading your "Preparing for and Mourning the Loss of your Pet" I feel so much better. She was the love of my life. My Mother is 89 years old and reads her Bible every day. Molly would sit next to Mother on the sofa as she read her Bible. This is not the first pet that we have lost, but Molly was so very special as she was given to us one year before my Father died in 1996. A week after my Father's death I had to return to work, but I knew that Mother would be OK becuase she had Molly. Now I still have to go to work, but Mother will not have Molly anymore. That sweet, wonderful face will not be there to greet me when I get home or climb in bed with me when there is a thunderstorm. I know that life must and will go on, but now there is a void in my life and I don't know how to fill it.
this is a good site i lost my cat tonite on the day of april.28/04
Ms. Tousley, I would like to thank you very much for putting this site on the internet. Having a late husband myself, I have found it very difficult to get through the Grief that it has brought. I am currently going into the medical field and am having trouble with this part of my life. One of the classes, that I am required to take in school, is psyche. I am currently writing a research paper on grief and am finding a lot of interesting information on your site. Thank You once again for this site. Mary Lawrence
Wednesday April 21 I had to put my beloved Caesar to sleep. He was suffering from congential heart failure and had a stroke. I was with him when he went to sleep forever and I know he is now happy and running free suffering no more. I shall miss my baby puppy for along time to come. But I am thankful for the 14 years we had together. Deborah
Last night my sweet cockatiel, Mr. Birdie died in my arms. I had him for 10 years of joy! We have no idea how old he really was, for he was given to me by a friend. I was his mommy and loved him so very much. He developed a bad respiratory infection in Dec. 2003 and was misdiagnosed after $500.00 worth of test-how does that happen? I cried and cried thinking he was going to die from some unknown cause. After 2 months of suffering, we took him to the emergency vet. hospital that just happened to have an Avian vet on duty. He was diagnosed with a fungal or bacterial lung infection and was given simple antibiodics. He got over the infection, only to find out that he had a liver problem. His liver enzymes were quadruple the normal level! What hell we went through with more anitbiodics and hand feedings, more tests and trips to the vet. Thanks God that we found a vet who deeply cares about you and your animal. She didn't charge me on many occasions and has won the trust of transferring all of my precious animal companions to her care. My Birdie lasted until April 20th when he began developing a yeast infection in his digestive tract. That was all he was going to bear. He would not go back into his cage all day, only wanting to be on my hand or shoulder. He looked so sick with his little eyes closed most of the time and his full body weight sitting on me all of the time. At 8:20pm, my husband was giving me a break on holding him, when Mr. Birdie started trying to get off of my husband and kept looking toward me, so I gathered him onto my shoulder to sit. After 10 minutes, I looked over at him only to see his respirations go extremely rapid, he stood up and spread his wings as if to fly and stretched his head up with his eyes wide open as if he was looking up at something. I knew he was trying to fly away with his angel birdie, so my husband gently removed him from my shoulder and put him in my arms where he spread his wings once more and passed to the next life. What an extreme honor for him to want to be with his mama for his rebirth. I cried and held him for a long time. My husband and I had our private funeral for Mr. Birdie and planted lilly's and daisy's around his grave in our backyard, where he can enjoy the warmth of the sun. I love you so much my Birdie and miss you with all of my heart! Today we took Mr. Birdies cage and anything we could to the Suncoast Seabird Sanctuary as a donation in honor of Mr. Birdie! Thank you for allowing me to express my love and grief for my precious little Birdie.
I had to have my 13 year old Springer Spaniel, Jessie, put to sleep Feb. 7th. It broke my heart, but then my brother-in-law died from cancer on March 8 and the grief has been difficult. Two days after his funeral, my sister(his wife of 24 years) died of unknown causes. The grief has been overwhelming to my other 4 siblings and me. I've been trying to handle this on my own, but not doing too well. Thank you for this website...it's helping. Dee
Fur Fur ran away but came back.........................im glad........i love fur so much....... she was my birthday present that my mom got me....,I know that god made her come back. sharon wood
This site is wonderful. I am a university student researching grief for a paper. I had my Labrador retriever euthanized due to an inherited spinal disease that basically was paralyzing her hind quarters in Dec. 2001. She was 14 years old and the best friend I ever had. She saw me through the loss of my aunts, mother, uncle and cousin-in-law over the span of her lifetime. She was my soul and lifeline through the family losses. Her loss was devastating for me. I brought her home to be buried in her favorite spot. To this day, I mourn Jessie's loss. I have a new Lab, Murphy, who is trying his best to replace that special spot in my heart I had for Jessie. He seems to know my feelings. He lays by Jessie's grave everyday as if she is giving him lessons in how to take care of me. I will always remember Jessie, my grief at losing her has softened but memory of her will never pass. Thank you, Marty, for this great place. Barbara Utley
MY COCKER BEAGLE MIX NAMED KASHMIR LEFT MY LIFE LESS THAN 2 WEEKS AGO AT THE AGE OF 13. SHE WAS SUFFERING AND I NEEDED TO STOP IT.SHE WAS SUCH A TROUPER AND I LEARNED SO MUCH FROM HER ABOUT COURAGE AND JUST DOING WHAT EVER IS IN FRONT OF YOU WITH A BIG SMILE ON YOUR FACE.THE LOSS IS DEVASTATING.I MISS HER SO MUCH. SHE WAS THE VERY EMBODIMENT OF HAPPINESS.
This website really helped my think of what to do for my pets;s fueral. It really inspeired me.
His name was Marty too...born 11/5/67 taken suddenly in an auto accident on 3/15/04....how will I ever go on? Thank you for this site...I am looking so hard to find someone, anyone that understands... muffin1367@yahoo.com
I am writing about grief in an educational training program and visited this site. Although I was researching, I found that something else happened. You see my husband passed away on August 3rd 2003 after a long illness. He was only 58 years of age. He chose to be at home and I provided the care required until he passed away in my arms. I thought I was managing really well and for the most part I am. It was only today that I realised that I have been trying to cover my grief with work. Not a good solution. I am now going to face my grief and ensure that I continue to live....as he so desperately wanted me to do. THANK YOU
This website was GREAT!It made me feel so calm and relaxed. Just listening to the lovely music at the beginning made me want to see what else you could do. By all means, you did an execellent job. Great way to modivate people, espically ME!!!
Tonight I am having a tough time. I thought I was over the grief of having a mom who had alzheimers. But now that she has died, I find a new grief. A grief for the years missed, a grief for what was before. Also a good friend was in a very severe card accident one week after I lost my mom. She is blind and will need recovery for several months. Now two weeks later, My daugher has just announced her engagement and I find that I cannot cope with the simpliest concern. I think I was fine until I had to deal with this which should be so joyess and I can't quite deal with. I am now crying a lot which I never do. I just feel like running away.
I lost the love of my life, my best friend...My Mother on February 22, 2004. The connection we have with our mothers is stronger than any other connection we have with anyone else. My heart is broken and I hope time will heal. She was the strongest person I have ever met. She fought lung cancer for 2 long years. I love you Mom...I am thankful you are no longer in pain but my heart aches for you!!
I lost my dog that I have for 12 years. She lived with me for 8 of those years in Australia, and when I came to the States to be married, of course she came too. She is the best friend I ever had. Last week she got sick, and her vital organs started to stop, so I had to get her put to sleep. I dont know how I can deal with this, Im totally heartbroken.. My poor little best friend Bessie, I love you B..... Mummy
On Valentine's Day 2004, I lost my precious Mother, I miss her so much and I am having a hard time coping with it all. She was the one person in my life that fully understood me and believed in me no matter what. She was my Best Friend and I could tell her anything. You was my Rock.....God do I miss her!!!! I love you Mom, Deb
Such a wonderful and heart touching web site Thank you. Maureen
AFTER 42 YRS OF HAVING MY HUSBAND, BEST FRIEND, LOVER AND THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON IN MY LIFE PASS I FEEL SO LOST..SO LONELY..SO HEARTBROKEN THAT I FEEL THIS WILL ALWAYS BE. I LOVE HIM SO MUCH AND I ALWAYS WILL. THE BEAUTIFUL FAMILY WE NUTURED TOGETHER ARE TRYING SO HARD TO BE HELPFUL BUT THE LOSS I FEEL IS TOO GREAT. I LOVE THEM AND KNOW THAT THEY ARE HURTING ALSO. I TALK TO MY HUSBAND EVERY DAY AND MISS HIM EVERY SECOND. HE HAD CANCER SINCE NOV 2000 AND JUST BEFORE CHRISTMAS LAST YEAR WAS TOLD HE WAS IN REMISSION (STAGE 3 LUNG CANCER). IT WAS THE FIRST HOLIDAY IN THE 3 YRS THAT WE FELT SUCH HAPPINESS AND THEN ON JAN 25 WE FOUND OUT THAT THE CANCER HAD SPREAD TO HIS BRAIN AND HE PASSED 20 DAYS LATER ON THE 13TH OF FEB. I HURT SO BAD THAT I REALLY DON'T CARE IF I DIE MYSELF BECAUSE I KNOW THEN THAT I WILL BE WITH HIM. MY EMOTIONS ARE ON A ROLLER COASTER. PLZ IS THERE ANYONE WHO CAN HELP ME? MBK
I have had to do the hardest thing in life at a young age. I am a 18 year old female. That just got out of high school and lost my son after careing him for almost 10 months. I have no place to live and my family's homes are to full for me to stay there. my two sisters have familys and I have lost mine. I don't know what I am to do now but go on with my life. The doc. said I could have a healthy baby but for so reason I lost my first. I hope that some day I well be able to move on and have 2 more but right now I don't know how to get over losing this one. Gabriel Xavier Davis Dec.5 of 2003 He was my angle that helped me grow up to be a better person then what I was. I wish I could of thanked him for all he did for me before he went. Shelley Gabriel's mom
Yesterday my husband and I had to do one of the hardest things ever. We had to have our schnauzer of 14 years put to sleep. Gretchen had developed congestive heart failure around 1 year ago. She was my Valentine's gift from my husband. Words cannot describe the empty feeling in our hearts. Gretchen was the first thing to greet you in the morning and the last thing that snuggle with you at night. Life is like a rose starting from a bud to full bloom and shortly after petals begin to fall and yesterday we lost a very special petal. Chuck and Anita Frazier
For Mamma: Lucille Nellie Rucker 6-17-1924~~~~~2-10-2004 Mamma you gave me alot of good years you gave me life love laughter and even some tears When god made your mold in 1924 he messed up he should have made a million more And as you were laid to rest on this day of love I can hear you humming with the angels above From dusk till dawn i invision you & daddy in your chairs ubder the tree of heavens lawn From pot roast to english toffee I will allways cherish the breaks with a short cup of coffee The miles are lonely this is true But at the same time it is filled with beautiful memories of you Noone can take those moments away your cute little comments are with me each and every day Now you are in heaven and daddy is taking care of you I know you are making his lunch it is allmost eleven And when you are through you will lay down to rest Noone could have a better mamma than you you are the best. I love you mamma~~~~~~~ Sue
MARTY, TODAY WE LOST OUR PUPPY MICHEAL TO PARVO. IT HAPPENED SUDDENLY. WE HAD NO CHOICE BUT TO PUT HIM DOWN DUE TO THE AMOUNT WANTED TO HELP HIM. HE WAS A SWEET, LOVING PUP. HE WAS FOUR MONTHS OLD. I AS THE MOM IN THE HOUSE I BECAME EXTEMELY CLOSE TO HIM. MY CHILDREN 8 AND 3 BECAME CLOSE BUT DONT UNDERSTAND DEATH LIKE I DO. I'M HURTING ALOT AND FEEL GUILTY THAT I WASNT ABLE TO PAY TO SAVE HIM. THE KIDS ARE ALREADY ASKING FOR ANOTHER PET. I SAID NO. I FEEL THAT IF I GET ANOTHER SO QUICKLY THAT IT WOULD BE DISRESPECTFUL TO MICHEAL. THAT, AND I WANT TO GIVE THE KIDS TIME ENOUGH THAT THEY MAY FEEL HIS ABSENCE AND GRIEVE. I HOPE THAT IM DOING THE RIGHT THING.ONE BIG LIFE LESSON FOR THE KIDS. THANK YOU FOR LISTENING. BOBBIE HAGENBAUGH
Hello I lost my Lhasa Apsos (Sparky) to kidney, and liver seckness on 02-22-04 he will be surelt missed. He was always there no matter what the problem, he had a comforting kiss and gentle nugge for us at all times. He will be surely missed. Gil Wels
I took my best friend Phoebe into the vet on Friday, and today, the vet called to inform me of her passing. She has suffered through, kidney failure and she figured she didnt want to suffer anymore. i love and miss Phoebe, so much!!! This was so unexpected for me. I thought for sure the vet that i had so much faith in for 9 and half years, was sure to get her well. I miss her so very, very much. I have to call him this morning to let him know what to do with her. I have no clue, or even what my options are. I just wish that she was here with me. i cant beleive this is happening!!!
Our beloved Golden Retriever, Luke, was euthanized on August 1, 2003. He let us know it was time; he no longer wanted to eat or drink; no longer wanted to play; he struggled to get up. The veterinary specialist said he most likely had cancer throughout his body, originally starting in his liver. None of this made his leaving us any easier but we did not want him to suffer. We spent his last 3 days holding him, loving him, talking to him. To this day, it does not take much to make us cry over losing him.
Again, your website is fantastic, can't falter you there. My grandmother died last September, September 4, and I still cry about it a lot. I was really close to her, and I havent talked to my mother since then, because she didnt even think to ask if I wanted to come and see her before she died. I know 5 months is a long time not to speak to someone, but I really havent forgiven her yet. If anyone has any advice, please tell.
Thank you for your beautiful and caring website. Your poetry section helped me to grieve for my beloved son whom I lost on New Year's Day, 2004 just before sunrise. How wonderful that you include our loving pets, such as our Petey, who are waiting for us at Rainbow Bridge. Thank you.
Thank you so much for this site. it has helped a great deal with the passing of my beloved brother-in-law. It has also helped me to deal with the grief that my husband is feeling at the loss of his brother. Thank you and God Bless. Erica Colston
Hi Marty, We always like sharing your comments in our Day Brightener newsletter. You have helped a lot of people who have lost beloved animal companions over the years. This topic that you're an expert in and that your website is featuring is of special interest to us. We have a story about the Rainbow Bridge in our new book GOD’S MESSENGERS: What Animals Teach Us about the Divine. The story titled “Messengers from Heaven” was written by Judy who is from Missoula, Montana. It is about Judy’s therapy dog Molly who passes away and Judy gets confirmation that there really is a Rainbow Bridge and she will meet Molly again in heaven. Judy’s story was featured in the daily newspaper in Missoula and has done much to comfort those who have lost beloved animal companions. Your guestbook readers may want to visit us at www.angelanimals.net for more details about our book GOD’S MESSENGERS and why we think sharing stories about the human/animal spiritual bond is so important. Thanks.
Thank you for your Web site. I lost my wonderful companion Shaquille. He was such a great dog. Full of love, I know he is in heaven with all his friends and he isn't in pain. I am trying to deal with the loss and pain I feel. I will always love my little pupper.
I lost a son to suicide 3 months ago and I thought check the internet on this subject
I am writing today.. as it has only been two days since I had to put my beloved "Boogieman" to sleep. He was the greatest cat you could ever want.. his fir was like velvet! Any one that met the "Boogieman" always remembered his beautiful coat of fir! He was just georgous! Along with is unbelievable love and caring personality and was so happy to see me every time I walked through the door, with cries of happiness to see me! Often he would get up on the dinning room table and sit near the edge waiting for me to remove my coat so he could give me hug. He was suddenly not eating and laying around in a very depressed state and was diagnosed with Lymphomia just last Wednesday, over the few days, each day it got more and more difficult to see him struggle. It was a very tough decision to make and I still struggle with it! I have many different emotions and feelings of anger, sadness, why my cat?, confusion, emptiness, and loneliness. Today I just didn't want to be bothered.. by anyone I just wanted to sit in and feel what I was feeling, but it made me feel worse.. it is part of the process! I want my "Boogieman" to be resting,but I really want him to be crying at the door and wanting to hug me from the table ,take a drink from the sink and snuggle under the covers with me at bed time. The silence hurts my head! Thank you for letting me share! Any words of advice are welcome at dilgy1266@optonline.net! Your Mommy Loves you Boogsie!
HI. Today is January 20...it would have been my mother's 59th birthday. I didn't realize when they told us in July that she had terminal lung cancer that it would be only 5 weeks until her death. My heart aches and I long to hug her and tell her one more time how much I love her. I wish that today I could send her roses for her birthday, but I can't. Thanks for letting me go on about it here.
i lost my sister 22 years ago in may and is still hard for me all these years later, as well as my brother i lost him 8 years ago in may also but one good thing has come to me i ment up with my sisters son she left behind have not seen him in 22 years long story.
Hi, I'm male 30 yrs old and have just been reading some of the touching comments on this site, living on the Gold Coast of Australia and similarly living with grief , 20 months ago I lost my Mum to a three year battle with breast cancer , and am still finding it hard , really hard sometimes. If its any help to any special people out there , the time does make it easier somewhat ,,,,, but you never stop missing them ,,, just don't do what I do and drink to make it better ..... that does NOT help Murray red_300zx@hotmail.com
I lost my dearest companion for the past 12 years, my cat Kiki. He helped me get through some excruciating lonely years and breakups, and now that I'm very happy and about to be married, I guess his work is done here. He left us for 2 days (unusual) and then was killed in the road in front of our house on his way home. I hope none of you have to experience picking up a frozen dead pet off the road. My heart is broken and I miss him so. I had been saying I just wanted to know he wasn't suffering, and he seemed to have died instantly. I got my wish. Words cannot describe how much his daily love and affection meant to me.
Thank you for this site. I have no children, so my dogs are my kids. We lost our precious baby Morgan in a tragic second. I appreciate this page and its devotion to dealing with the loss of a pet, who many times is as close a member of the family as anyone. For Morgan, thanks for all the wonderful memories you have left me.
What a valuable website and so informative. Beautifully designed. Thank for sharing such rich rescources! This will help me with teaching and counsellingin both human and pet bereavement. My students will be well informed. Our website is www.spiritualdirections.com
still cant get over the fact that my mum passed away 6 years on the 21 dec 2003 my dad passed away ifound it really hard when my mum had gone and im really not coping to well knowing that i will never see my dad again only in my heart thank you your wed site it has help me alot
My rat recently passed to the Rainbow bridge. I was very close to her and I wanted to see her grow to be a mature rat. I was so mad at myself for letting her die. I have to also add that if you make a bond, make it one that will last, It is normal and human to cry tears of joy, sorrow or any other emotion, dont hold it in, let it out for the world to see Morgan Moone www.rodeoprincess567@cs.com
Hi my name is Sylvia/ I lost my daughter Dec 19.1995 she was 17. I would like to thank you for this website I just found. I also in the past two years have lost a nephew and niece and a very special friend . My friend at work also lost her son 2wks ago at the same sit that my daughter had her accident .
I am searching for a way to talk to my Goddaughter who is also my niece. She lost her 9 year old son in a ATV accident two weeks ago. She is griefing so much that she is talking about joining her son. She has two other children who need her so hopefully by reading your comments I can find a way to reach her. Thanks, Eva
Hi, My name is Christine Duarte, I am the mother of two wonderful twin daughters. A special gift sent to me from God. They have just turned four years old and are the joy of my life. I feel that I am very blessed to have had a chance for my older brother John Jr. and my other family members to have such a wonderful chance to be a part of their life. My brother John, passed away a little over a year ago and this has been the hardest thing that I have ever had to deal with and is still struggling to heal. This year the holidays do not have the same meaning as it did before he was gone. He was the life of the party and was always so caring, loving, ands giving. I hope that he is looking down and knows how much I miss him and how much he is loved even though I didn't always tell him that. I hope that some day that we will meet again.
THERE IS NO HEALING FROM THE LOSS AND GRIEF WHICH I HAVE SUSTAINED. ALL I CAN DO IS TO GO ON LIVING AND PRAYING.
This site has been a godsend for me this year. I have been grieving the loss of two dear friends: One was murdered and the other suffered serious kidney failure. It's so painful to feel the suffering but there is nothing else to do but FEEL. This site is lovely and helped me grieve tonight. Love Jennifer
A very comforting webite. Excellent.
One month ago today, I lost my fiance unexpectedly. 8 days ago, I miscarried. Yesterday I met with a grief counsellor that is working with a Hospice here in St. Louis. I am glad and thankful to you for spending the time it takes to create this web page. It was a roller coaster of a ride for me looking through all of this (quite bittersweet actually). But that is part of the road back to ... Thank you... I will definitely be visiting again. Shannon
Thank You For This Page. I lost my closest cousion "Terry" a month ago and I have been having a hard time dealing with it. I wish it never had to happen. But Iall I know is he is up in hevean looking down on all his family& friends right now. I'll miss him... But I will not forget him. Kaila Hipps
We have experienced the loss of our fourth dear one in the last two years, on Friday 11/14/03. We are sad beyond words. He was a 10 1/2 year old Rotti named Bose. What a great one too.
This is a difficult time after being widowed for the second time, moving to new home alone, our anniversary along with the holidays. I feel so unfocused, the least thing leaves me feeling as though I swimming in chaos. I miss the together time, the secret smiles and looks with my friend, lover and soul mate. It seems as though I'll never be whole again or know who I really am. Bonnie
I am looking for ways to help my sister, who lost her husband and my niece and nephew who lost their dad October 26th. He was on a fishing trip in the Gulf of California with 4 other friends but they never returned. The boat was found and 1 body was recovered 1 week later but my sister's husband has not been found. She has come to the realization that he is gone. I wish I could help my 17 year old niece with her pain. I feel so badly for her. What can I do, if anything to help out. This is the first death in our family that I've had to deal with. My sister is a widow at 41. They had a wonderful family life and now my sister is alone with my niece at home. Any ideas? M. Gilbert
Hello - I am still grieving over the loss of my Mom almost 2 years ago, 12/18/2001. I am so thankful to have found this website, it's the best one yet! I was wondering though if grief seems worse the second year then the first? Does anyone know? Although I am not stuck in the "black hole" that I was for the first six months after Mom's death, I find myself being terribly lonely, even though I have many friends and a warm, loving family. There is a huge hole in my heart, that I don't think will ever be repaired. I could care less about the holidays, they mean nothing to me. Any thoughts or guidance would be greatly appreciated. Thanks so much for a really wonderful website. DLC
I lost my dad 1 1/2 years ago. He was only 58. He had lung cancer. I miss him more and more as time passes. I'm so glad I found your website. Sincerely, Daddy's cowgirl
Thank you so much for compiling such compassionate wisdom. TA
I've had several significant losses in my life: sexual abuse at age 7, death of father at age 14, contemplating suicide at age 16, 1 miscarriage, death of 3 important pets, my mother's illness (cancer 1 yr.) and death 18 mons. ago. I've been in therapy now for 4 yrs. and have studied Thanatology and just finished my masters in conselling in Mexico where I live...but I still feel that I am grieving...even though I AM better than how I used to be. I would like to be in the discussion groups and learn more to help myself and consequently to be more able to help accompany others in their losses.
Thanks again. I signed this guest book because of the loss of a Bulldog on the 17th July, 02, but now, I have just lost my mother. The died of food poisoning on 19th of this month in a hospital. Beforehand, she was terrified of going in becuase of all of the stories of MRSA, and that one of her friends had recently passed away from 'flu in the same hospital. Before she entered the hospital, the chlostridium was'nt too bad, and the only accepted her to analyse her. While she was there, she fell down stairs and broke some of the bones in her foot. Strong painkillers were given which knocked her out for a few days. The food poisoning eventually took hold, unfortunately, and she died at 06:07. I'm not sure how peaceful the death was, as she was conscious as she passed on, but the most painful thing is that I don't know if she acknowledged if I was there. Later on, I found out that many of the things she had gone into the hospital with had dissapeared, including glasses, books, and an Amber necklace I had given her as a get well present a few weeks before she died. I was heartbroken, and still am, but mostly I feel much anger at the hospital staff, who didn't seem to give a shit what happened to my mother or her belongings. This is the first time I have been out of bed since the death, and I'm still crying as I write this. Thank you so much for this helpful site. |