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Date:            Saturday, May 06, 2006
Time:            07:23:41 AM

I Lost my Wife to Cancer and as she was dying I held her until her last breath, now I am unable to let go or even start having a life of my own.  She would have wanted me to find another Lady and go on living as we did, only I find myself still holding on to her memories and all we use to do.  How does a person ever let go ? I just don't know.            

Date:            Tuesday, April 25, 2006
Time:            04:39:52 PM

My Dad passed away when I was 9 of cancer, my Mother is dying of COPD & lung cancer right now, I have been grieving for 3 years already although she is still with me I feel imminent doom all the time. I wish I could make that stop.  Still missing  good friends that passed away too

Date:            Monday, April 24, 2006
Time:            07:20:43 AM

I have lost a lot of relatives all through my life and also pets, 6 years ago I took my sweet rabbit of 8 years to the vet to be checked out because she was acting a little weak, he told me she had cancer through her whole body??? sometimes she acted like she was well & perky!!! he said she needed to be put asleep!!! I could not believe the words I was in so much shock!!! I did not have a place to bury her at the time so she had to be cremated, came out of the vet office crying my eyes out for over a year daily, she was so special and I loved her so much!!! Now when I see wild rabbits in my yard I think of her and remember ~~~~ kathy 

Date:            Monday, April 17, 2006
Time:            08:48:41 AM

I have taken some kind of comfort from reading others comments. I have not lost a human family member, so I hope you don not feel insulted that I add my loss amongst those of you who have lost parents, husbands, wives and children.
I had my dog put to sleep, aged just 3. it was a choice that I took. we loved each other so much, but he had become aggressive and unpredictable, as well as attacking my other dog. He was a big boy, 5 stone of Staffordshire Bull Terrier.
The fact that I took his life makes his passing almost unbearable.
As I am sure you all appreciate, with any loss -you ask yourself "What if?"  I have concluded that "IF" is one of the smallest words - but in many ways it is the biggest.
I wish you all peace, I send you all love, I hope that our hurt ends and we are left with glorious memories of happiness and love. XXXXX

Date:            Sunday, April 16, 2006
Time:            08:58:31 PM

My name is Stephanie.  I lost my daughter Samantha (20 years young) on November 28th, 2005 due to an accidental overdose to which I will always feel guilt over. She was a wonderful person.  She had been going to college to become a teacher and worked at a daycare/preschool to help pay for college, gas and insurance on her car.  We were all so proud of her.  She is survived by myself, her 2 brothers, her father and step mother, my fiance and many, many more. She lit up a room whenever she walked into one.  She had Crohn's Disease and would put on a genuine happy face even when she was in pain. A part of me will be with her forever. I can say that she was one of my best friends as she got older.  I will forever miss and adore her.
Stephanie Ross

Date:            Thursday, April 13, 2006
Time:            02:37:07 PM

On April 5th my 91 year old grandmother died, after being ill for less than 24 hrs. Then yesterday on April 12th my husband found our beautiful 8 1/2 year old Siamese cat dead in the driveway. We have no idea what happened to her. It feels like I have lost 2 family members. I hope it doesn't sound horrible to say that I am almost as sad about the cat's death as I am about my grandma's. The resources on the website are helpful.

Date:            Thursday, April 06, 2006
Time:            12:23:48 PM

my name is dorothy horton, i know the pain of loseing amother, her passing was on september 16, 2005, four days before my birthday. life has not been the same, i miss you mama.

Date:            Sunday, April 02, 2006
Time:            03:16:18 PM

My dog will be put to sleep tomorrow morning.  A week ago I sat outside with her and she seemed just fine; her normal loving, energetic self.  Her liver's failing now, she can't seem to see, and the vet thinks she has cancer.  It's time.  I could have never imagined how much I love her.  I didn't understand that she was my best friend until today.  She's the only person in the world who I've told everything about me, who I think really understands me.  And she'll be gone tomorrow.  I don't know what I'm going to do.  The only person in the world who really, truly 'gets' me will be gone forever.

I'll be alone.

Date:            Saturday, April 01, 2006
Time:            09:14:44 AM

Dear Marty,
It was just my little Bro's Birthday, he is in heaven, yes every birthday and holiday is difficult.
Our cat had liver disease and we had her on IV's and special diets at home, but she still went downhill and we euthanized her at Thanksgiving, she purred thru it, but its still one of the hardest things in life to do and to live without her. She like all the other animals we've known, was an angel, a messenger of God.
You are also an angel, a messenger of God, helping the world through grief, Thank you so much for this site, and your giving heart! God Bless You Marty!
Love & Hugs, Peace & Joy,

Date:            Tuesday, March 14, 2006
Time:            08:03:17 AM

Hi my name is Cheryl, I lost my grandson who was only 5 months old, he was taken violently at the hands of his mother. My little angel was in the NICU for the first 2 months of his life where I would visit him everyday. I did not know it was possible to love someone so deeply who was only on this earth for such a short time. I have been fortunate in my life that this was my first experience with death. I had no idea the impact death of a love one takes on a person. This web site is very helpful in that it makes you feel you are not the only one going through such a difficult time. I pray for those grieving; pray for me, that I may one day be myself again.

Date:            Saturday, March 04, 2006
Time:            02:19:56 PM

My cat died yesterday while at the vet's for a routine procedure . I feel so devastated , can't eat or sleep. Please help me.

Date:            Friday, March 03, 2006
Time:            04:53:31 PM

Absolutely and profoundly healing...Thank you!  Thank - you, Thank - you!

Date:            Thursday, March 02, 2006
Time:            01:04:36 PM

I think that your website is an excellent website and it will help more and more people to understand themselves. It also helps children understand what their family may be going through and it is stated clearly so that it is able to reach the reader.

Date:            Sunday, February 19, 2006
Time:            08:59:34 AM

Wow, just yesterday morning he was still in my life.  I had tried and tried to help him, but he was getting weaker and weaker by the day.  No medical intervention and no amount of money could help.  Do you know how hopeless and helpless this makes me feel?  He was suffering, and the vet said that it was time.  13 years ago, the emaciated little thing came into my life that someone had just abandoned.  What were they thinking?  He has enriched my life so much -- helped me with a lonely move across states, through divorce, through all the hardships in my life, and I was powerless to save him.
I tried up to the last minute with subcutaneous fluids, feeding with syringes.........I thought his first and only chemo treatment was the cause for his symptoms, but it was the agressiveness of the cancer. 
I tried and tried to hold on to any sign of improvement, but it was wishful thinking.  That is no way to live cowering under a bed......Sorry, Pismo!  I tried!  If I could turn the tables and have it be me, I would.  But then, who would have taken care of you? 
I will miss you dearly....our quiet times at night, your loud purring, the sheer joy you brought into my life.  I am better for it!  You have touched everyone that has known you.  Thank you, dear Pismo.  I will never forget you....
In rememberance of my dear Pismo......1993-2006.

Date:            Thursday, February 16, 2006
Time:            06:12:03 PM

Jan.2003 My mother-in-law (my mother) lost her six month fight with cancer. That was real hard.June.2003 by younger brother came down with cancer. That was real bad.Sept.21,2003 I lost my youngest son to a man talking on a cell phone. That man ran his red light and a sixteen year old hit him. It sent that man in the air and he came down on my 29 year old son. Tim was sitting on his motorbike that he had for one month. This has been a bad bad bad nightmare. Now my brother is losing his battle with cancer. Its in his liver now. I tell him I would trade places with him if I could. I wish this nightmare was over. How Much Can A Person Take.

Date:            Thursday, February 16, 2006
Time:            08:31:04 AM

I lost my dad a month ago today. He killed himself and thats all i have to say.

Date:            Sunday, February 12, 2006
Time:            09:57:35 AM

I loved it! I lost  my husband aug 14,2004 he was  killed. There is  no way i  can  ever start to  tell you how bad it hurts...........This  site is  so  warm and loving that  well it was  almost like  my husband  was  reaching out to  me here. I still wait on that phone call  he always  made when  he  got to where he was going....It never came. But when  i came here to this site it was like for one lil moment it did!!!!!!! THANK YOU SO  MUCH

Date:            Thursday, February 02, 2006
Time:            06:14:06 PM

I wish to announce the passing of my beloved cat Sabastian. He was a ever faithful and loving friend to me for nearly 18 years. He constantly amazed me with his strength, courage and compassion. For all that I loved him, he served me much better than I served him, and my loss and my pain simply cannot be measured. How will I live without him. My world and world at large regardless of if we knew it or not is less without him. I cannot say enough about him, all was good and I feel that I will never be the same ever, ever again.

shawn williams

Date:            Wednesday, February 01, 2006
Time:            08:10:10 AM

Thank you VERY MUCH for providing this thoughtful and detailed website.  I am trying to assist my adult daughter prepare for her dog's passing and am sure your sharing will help us both.
Ann and Trixie

Date:            Tuesday, January 31, 2006
Time:            12:15:50 PM

I happened to the website looking for a poem "i'm free".  I'm going to join your discussion groups.  I think i'm in need of some help...I help people, I think i'm ready to turn to someone and ask for help.  Thanks, Ann

Date:            Sunday, January 29, 2006
Time:            05:11:10 PM

Thank you for a wonderful site. We lost our beloved companion, friend and dog, Katie yesterday after a 2 year battle with cancer. I know that we are so lucky to have had 12 wonderful years with her, however, we were not ready to let her go just yet. This pain is unlike any I have ever experienced with the passing of previous cats. You see, I was born and raised a cat person and Katie was my first dog. She has left a definate mark on my heart and she changed that in me. I have lost many friends and family over the years and equate this pain and loss to that of the loss of my Dad 10 years ago. Even though we have had 2 years to prepare ourselves for the inevitable it still hurts more than I thought it would and appreciate the info on this site. Thanking you from the bottom of my heart....


Date:            Sunday, January 29, 2006
Time:            12:04:28 PM

I lost my nan just over two years ago now and it hurt like mad.I felt so guilty because she had been suffering for quite a bit in hospital but i only went to see her the one time.I was too selfish to go any  more because it upset me too much.I wanted to remember her as the independent nan that used to take me shopping and used to bake apple pies on a sunday.She made the best apple pie ever!I went into a deep depression after her death and i had an unhealthy amount of anger inside of me.It was as if i had to find someone to blame but of course there was no one.It was her time to go and she is undoubtdly in a much better place than this one.People who die are not gone,God just wants his best angels back.

Date:            Monday, January 23, 2006
Time:            09:55:36 AM

my old friend died last night. took her own life.
this site is a good thing. some of us have no one to talk to.

Date:            Saturday, January 21, 2006
Time:            12:28:32 PM

i moved away from my home when my guinea pig chip was not feeling well and 3 month after i moved she passed away at the age of 7 my mum phoned to tell me.  and the sad thing was that i did not feel sad.  it was like she was not dead.  then when i went home for christmas i was sad, my rabbit lost all kinds of weight and was still lossing so i comforted him all through the season, and now he is getting better. so even thuogh i lost my pig i re invented my relation ship with billy.  

Date:            Friday, January 20, 2006
Time:            10:23 PM

I just lost my cat, Tigger after Christmas 2005. I am still grieving for him. I still blame myself for his death but I don't know why. I am still hurting that he is gone. I still keep looking for him. It not the same without him. He died when he was 3 years old. I really want to join this website and maybe someone in here will help me for the pains i'm feeling. My e-mail is

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